(6 Ways to Make it Work Across Zip Codes)
By: The Luxe Mystery Poster
My boyfriend of 6 months has moved 2007.05 miles away. Yes, thanks to Mapquest, I know the exact number of miles and minutes that there are between the 2 of us. Before he lived just a few hours down the road. I looked online for reasonable suggestions on how to make this work and (sigh) realized that I must find my own.
6) Reconnect with your friends. Yep, I know you chicks and dudes who get with someone, fall in love/lust and loose your mind. You really don't have any friends because you dropped them all to spend every waking moment with your boo. You know what I'm going to say. Invite them all out. Buy the first round of drinks. Invite yourself back into their lives. They'll welcome you. Besides, you're going to need their support. OH! A word of advice, don't while about your baby.
5) Clarify expectations. If there is a time difference, when is it too late to call? How often will you visit? Should you bring your dog/child/mother/friend(s) when you come? If so, where will they all stay? How often will they come to visit you? (That last question is sooooo good!) Stop beating around the bush and tell that man/woman what you expect from them. Trust me, when you get bitter from not seeing your honey things turn oooooogly fast!
4) Get a second job. No, seriously. If you're not independently wealthy imagine the dilemma that you will face when it comes time to buy that plane ticket/ fill your gas tank to visit that man or woman. Not to mention that when you arrive you actually need to do something. Getting a second job will prevent you from thinking, "Should I pay my mortgage/rent or should I go visit my sweetie?" Plus, you really do want something to do in those extra hours of the night. That brings me to my next point.
3) Get a vibrator or take a vow of celibacy. The Christian in me wants to emphasize the latter of the two options. Really, I stand by and employ that method. It will make your relationship, spiritual and romantic, much better. But some of you don't share that sentiment and, thus, you need to hasten to Hustler to buy thyself a toy. Hey, this is not a joke! Better to drop $20 bucks now than to creep. I mean, its so hard to hide your on the side piece when your significant other comes to town. Plus, karma is a beast.
2) Be honest. If you want to exit the relationship or need a break, tell the other person. Please!
1) Communicate, communicate, communicate! This is the most serious of all of these suggestions. The smallest word means so much when distance is an issue. Keep each other informed on what going in your lives. While what you ate for lunch is irrelevant, sharing your accomplishments, frustrations and struggles will make the other person feel included. (As a female, let me say that women especially need inclusion.) Even an email with a funny joke or observation will work. With texts and PDAs there is no excuse why the other person should feel cut out of your life.
Best of luck!
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